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Rob Camarena's avatar

Legend. Loved it much.

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Sarah Hawthorn's avatar

Envy fuels ambition, jealousy stifles it.

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Lily Mora's avatar

I think we need a Tam and Tessa podcast!

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Tessa Carranza-Hawthorn's avatar

I would be lying if I said it hadn’t ever crossed my mind!!! We could call it Cackle.

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Janelle's avatar

Hard relate to absolutely everything you write, Tessa. And I envy you figuring stuff out two decades before I am ;-)

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Tessa Carranza-Hawthorn's avatar

I think figuring it out is a lifelong work in progress! And better now than never, I always like to say!!

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Katherine Eva Coate's avatar

I ADORE this Tessa! Anyone in a “writer’s room”: HARD RELATE.

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Tessa Carranza-Hawthorn's avatar

Get us in there!!!

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Gregory Garretson's avatar

Tessa, I can definitely relate to this, as I suspect could the majority (or a large plurality anyway) of people writing on Substack. I like the way you examine your envy. I once did a career-change workshop at the School of Live (big fan of Alain de Botton), and one of the exercises they had us do was to study our envy. We had to:

1. List three famous people we envied.

2. List three people we knew who we envied.

3. List the achievements of these people.

4. List the positive aspects of these that we didn't really want.

5. List the positive aspects of these that we did want.

I found that this points you right toward where you want to be. Much as you have done here. Enhorabuena!

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Tessa Carranza-Hawthorn's avatar

LOVE School of Life but have never seen this from Alain de Botton - I'm going to dig it up and do the exercise. Thanks for sharing :)

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